People who are being bullied are close-minded
two types of bullying
i am not an expert of “bully profession” but from i understood, cyberbullying which means people give vicious comment to people, bullying people by hitting them, bullying colleague and schoolmate by ignoring them, talk shit about them, ridiculing them. but among these types of bullying, there are a common trait, “not giving recognition” or “not being recognized”.
my being bullied story
i am not sure the right definition of bully, i dont even want to google it, but i think as long as people who intentionally want to hurt you, this is bullying. i have several being bullied stories. here is one of it.
i was is junior high school, liking a girl who belongs to the “popular group”. at that time i was craving for recognition by popular boy group, trying to be “cool” by not being myself. but i have one similarity i had with this boy popular group was that i like the same girl as the 2 boys from the popular boy group.
these two guys warned me several times not to even approach her, because they knew that i have closer relationship with the girl than them. but why would i listen to them? because i didnt want to be disliked by boy popular group.
i forget a lot of memories already, i should have started to introspect and record it down earlier in my life. but i still remember that i didnt give up on interacting with her, i always wait until the popular boy go to toilet( yes, in my junior high even boys go to toilet together like girls), then i would sit down next to her, talking to her, i cant stand up because it would be too visible. eventually the admiration towards her was too strong, i would intentionally wait until almost everyone leave the classroom, then ask her if she could go home with me since we live in the same street. and i did succeed.
i was so cool, that i had the balls to walk with the girl infront of these two guys.
maybe this is the power of “ love”??
somehow similar with “ some people regretted on eating too much pizza, because they get fat afterwards”, i instantly getting picked on by this boy group. they threatened me, they started to talk shit about me. one of the guy even take out baseball bat, i am laughing right now at this point because this guy was pissed off by her own girlfriend, it has nothing to do with our own business. well maybe he is pissed of because his friend was pissed off??
i didnt get hit from this, even from the entire junior high school life, but there were something more horrible then getting hit — “losing recognition” .
around 10 days before things were over, my heart was so hurt, afraid to go to school, first time requesting to sleep with my father after 10. avoid everyone’s eye in the class, because these boys shouted at me in the class, makes me feel embarrassed and problematic.
bullies are close-minded, but people who are being bullied are pretty much the same
most of the people know that bully who ridicule people are close-minded, its pretty straightforward. but people who are being bullied are also close-minded is because, take me an example, at that time i was bullied at junior high, i didnt know how big the earth is ,the concept of “universe”is pretty much the same as the earth. i knew there are billions of people living on the same planet as me, but i could not imagine it, not even mention to imagine how diverse the personality, background, job people could have.
i didnt know i am still worthwhile, i didnt know i could be loved even though there are these popular boys and classmate seemingly dislike me.
but listen!
if i had the perception/mindset/knowledge i have right now, would i still being bullied??
maybe:)) but hard:))
because if i had the perception/mindset/knowledge right now i would understand the bigger picture that they didnt recognize me because i was maybe more charming and more courage than them, so thats why i had the chances to have closer relationship with girl. i would also understand that even though they didnt recognize me, doesnt mean “their recognition is worthwhile”, or doesnt mean i will never get recognition from others ever again.
in a nutshell, the lack of open-mindedness is the key element to form unhappiness. the more open-minded you are “ the more method you way have to escape from the unpleasant situation”
what have i learned from introspecting my being bullied storied
i am enlightened now… i was a guy who was lack of confidence and keep craving for attention from people. which is the opposite personality i have right now.
how come i forget this important and sad memory of my life?
fuck this, i want to pay more attention on introspecting right now, seems like its a more effective way to understand more about the universe rather than keep asking strangers on the street, when most of the people would just lie, shy, and not giving enough focus.
i wont give up !!
by eric202005
